You can always start with the "and why not me?" attitude. Why wouldn't things you want and dream about happen to you? Just stop the "nah, no way this can happen to me, it is too good to be true... bla bla bla... (what ever your inner dialog is)" Then you go to "wouldn't it be nice..." and then just concentrate on what you want and just ignore what you don't. And things really start happening the way you want them to. Sometimes you do need to move your lazy bum ( this true for me too
) but if it is something you want it is not that hard at all.