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Rockchick26 · 11-08-2009, 06:54 AM

I noticed something about myself the other day and I was wondering if this is normal, it almost seems like something is wrong with me but then I think well maybe something is wrong with everyone else?

Every time I hear bad news, for example the Fort Hood killings, I don't like hearing people talk about how awful it is. I even unfollowed someone on Twitter because the whole time that event was unfolding, she reported every single bit of information, adding her own "isn't this awful!?" or "we must pray for the victims!" Maybe it bothers me because I'm trying to raise my vibration to be positive and happy all the time, more enlightened, and not wallowing in negativity. I know death is bad, everyone does, but I just don't feel the need to go around asking everyone else if they think it's awful too.

I also have this same reaction when people comment on how horrible it is that somebody died, like "Isn't that so sad that ___'s mother died!?" YES! IT IS SAD! But why do people "preach" about it, almost as if they think I don't care unless they tell me I should? It's like when people are at a funeral and every conversation is "this has to be such a horrible time for her" or "don't you just feel so bad for the kids" or something like that, it makes me want to yell "YES OF COURSE ITS SAD, ITS A FUNERAL, I KNOW WHATS GOING ON!" But that makes me sound bad just saying that, but I can't help it thats how I feel. I always remain silent at funerals, and I don't go around saying how awful it is. It's obvious. What do people expect me to say, "Oh, really? I wasn't aware, but yes you're right! Thanks for the heads up, I'll go cry now!"

I try to avoid negativity any way I can, I skim over the newspaper until I see something interesting and helpful. I don't watch the news on tv unless I want to catch the weather report then I shut it off after that comes on. Is my reaction to bad news just because I hate negativity and want to avoid it? Am I a bad person for feeling this way? Because I must come off cold and heartless sometimes when I don't let out my emotions like everyone else, but that's just because I don't see the point in repeating it and spreading it and reinforcing it. Everyone knows it's bad, talking about it isn't going to make it any better.

Does anyone else out there feel the same as me?

11-08-2009, 06:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
Rockchick26 Banned Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,037	I have a wierd reaction to negative events I noticed something about myself the other day and I was wondering if this is normal, it almost seems like something is wrong with me but then I think well maybe something is wrong with everyone else? Every time I hear bad news, for example the Fort Hood killings, I don't like hearing people talk about how awful it is. I even unfollowed someone on Twitter because the whole time that event was unfolding, she reported every single bit of information, adding her own "isn't this awful!?" or "we must pray for the victims!" Maybe it bothers me because I'm trying to raise my vibration to be positive and happy all the time, more enlightened, and not wallowing in negativity. I know death is bad, everyone does, but I just don't feel the need to go around asking everyone else if they think it's awful too. I also have this same reaction when people comment on how horrible it is that somebody died, like "Isn't that so sad that ___'s mother died!?" YES! IT IS SAD! But why do people "preach" about it, almost as if they think I don't care unless they tell me I should? It's like when people are at a funeral and every conversation is "this has to be such a horrible time for her" or "don't you just feel so bad for the kids" or something like that, it makes me want to yell "YES OF COURSE ITS SAD, ITS A FUNERAL, I KNOW WHATS GOING ON!" But that makes me sound bad just saying that, but I can't help it thats how I feel. I always remain silent at funerals, and I don't go around saying how awful it is. It's obvious. What do people expect me to say, "Oh, really? I wasn't aware, but yes you're right! Thanks for the heads up, I'll go cry now!" I try to avoid negativity any way I can, I skim over the newspaper until I see something interesting and helpful. I don't watch the news on tv unless I want to catch the weather report then I shut it off after that comes on. Is my reaction to bad news just because I hate negativity and want to avoid it? Am I a bad person for feeling this way? Because I must come off cold and heartless sometimes when I don't let out my emotions like everyone else, but that's just because I don't see the point in repeating it and spreading it and reinforcing it. Everyone knows it's bad, talking about it isn't going to make it any better. Does anyone else out there feel the same as me?