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Originally Posted by whattodo  I look at all the guys out there and i feel like i am missing many things. i feel like i dont have what they have, their looks, their love lives, their social lives. i feel sad. sometimes i wonder, will i ever get children, will i ever get a family, because i dont feel attraction for women,and it is impossible to marry another man i love, because my family is defintely against that. not to mention society looking down on it. |
First of all, being attracted to the same sex does not mean that you can't have a family, a love life, or a social life. What you don't see is that a lot of straight guys are actually miserable, maybe even more miserable than you, without families or girlfriends or social lives.
If you live in a conservative city or country, you might consider moving. I know that Sweden and Norway are very open, if you can stand the weather--so is Finland, but Finnish is quite hard to learn. If you're in the US, some good cities are San Francisco, Seattle, Portland, Madison (Wisconsin), Austin...the list is long.
I know that gay culture can sometimes be lookist and ageist. But not always! What I would recommend is you work on yourself. Even if you look like Steve Buscemi, if you're kind, energetic, active and vivacious, people will naturally be attracted to you. (Plus--I know several girls and one guy who totally have the hots for Buscemi. So don't worry!)
If you're worried about your family, try keeping some distance from them for a while. If you're very young or financially dependent on them, then try to become more independent. You might move away for a while before you tell them (you could tell them in a letter). Sometimes parents feed off the drama of their children, if you're far away they can't do that so much.