This IM stuff is hard, if it was easy then everyone would be doing it
Seriously, it's a juggling act. You have to live your life everyday, processing millions of bytes of data and at the same time figure out what you want and work on getting it.
It would so much easier if you could just click your fingers right?
I think it's better if you just have one main goal and work at that. Having lots of little goals I think spreads the energy too much.
HTH
Jeff