Sometimes the best thing to do is face up to someone. I think that we should not be bias towards or against conflict. I would put the focus on doing what is right in each situation rather than pre-supposing that conflict avoidance is always for the best. Maybe it would help to study some of the wise sayings of some enlightened martial artists, take up a martial art yourself and give up any prejudice against conflict ie see it fresh.
This might go against the grain of your character but to really transcend/go beyond conflict your character should be "grainless". In other words until you give up personal preferences there will always be unavoidable conflict one way or another-internally and externally. Are you at war with your inner warrior? Are you starving an essential part of your nature?
If you accept and love the concept of conflict deeply then, however the outer circumstances may appear, you will be perfectly tranquil and undisturbed within-free to do what ever is for the best.
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