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Daffy Duck · 11-07-2009, 09:36 PM

I think this whole "sleeping around for variety" thing is typically a young desire. I've always been a LTR kind of guy, but I have friends who could literally sleep with many new woman every month without even trying. And for years, this is basically what they'd do. I've found myself with many opportunities to be like them (sometimes with the same girl), but like I said, it's not my thing, so I'd decline.

But then eventually all of them met "the one" and decided to give up the variety. A good friend of mine, who I thought would never get married, just got engaged about a month ago.

So it seems to typically be a young desire. There seems to be, in my experience, some correlation between maturity and LTRs. The more mature and conscious adults I've met are usually in LTRs.

I don't think immaturity is the pure causation for sleeping with many women and avoiding commitment. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, providing you're being authentic (not leading women on) and it's what you really want.

Commitment, for some, is a harder path to take. But I think, for some, it is far more rewarding.

11-07-2009, 09:36 PM	#215 (permalink)
Daffy Duck Banned Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3,001	I think this whole "sleeping around for variety" thing is typically a young desire. I've always been a LTR kind of guy, but I have friends who could literally sleep with many new woman every month without even trying. And for years, this is basically what they'd do. I've found myself with many opportunities to be like them (sometimes with the same girl), but like I said, it's not my thing, so I'd decline. But then eventually all of them met "the one" and decided to give up the variety. A good friend of mine, who I thought would never get married, just got engaged about a month ago. So it seems to typically be a young desire. There seems to be, in my experience, some correlation between maturity and LTRs. The more mature and conscious adults I've met are usually in LTRs. I don't think immaturity is the pure causation for sleeping with many women and avoiding commitment. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, providing you're being authentic (not leading women on) and it's what you really want. Commitment, for some, is a harder path to take. But I think, for some, it is far more rewarding.