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Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb  I'm pretty strongly sure that they want to have sex with you.
I remember there was a girl who was "one of the boys" in my last school but also happened to be hot. All the guys, including me, wanted her. It was damn obvious. Every lunch she'd be sitting at a table surrounded by ten guys. Not me though, I know the value of differentiation  |
you know, i've been 'one of the boys' before. i wouldn't say i'm 'hot' but i'm definitely cute (probably at least a 6 on the ten point scale, but it feels weird to rate myself like that) and smart and funny and usually laid back.
my former best friend was a guy. we finally acted on the tension between us, now he is not my friend anymore. makes me sad but i can understand. however, i wouldn't say he just 'put up with me' for about 7 years just to get in my pants. maybe the guys here would say differently, but to me that would at least be admirable in the amount of patience he showed.
these guys probably do want to sleep with you OP, but so what? if they respect you they will continue relating as 'only friends' until you give them obvious reasons to think otherwise. they are letting you make the choice to stay as a friend or explore something more, and that's empowering.
also i'll say, if they never make any moves on you, do not let them call you a tease. it's their responsibility to make their desires known to you. if they don't, it's on them, not you.
p.s. i feel a need to qualify my list of traits about myself so i won't seem conceited. i'm extremely sensitive about coming across that way. but there should be no shame in accurately assessing myself, so i'm resisting the urge to qualify it (but i'm really not resisting it completely or i wouldn't have added this!)