[reuniter]

I have been silent here for a few days because I have been busy with some work but also because big events have been happening regarding my situation with my wife.

Perhaps one could attribute things to just a coincidence in the particular timing of the moment when my application of the "no contact rule" finally produced its result but the simple fact is on Wednesday night I managed to successfully deal with my doubts in a way that was really a mishmash of what so many of you posters here suggested and also was heavily influenced by the excellent and succinct writings of Depak Chopra. I really could feel a distinct shift in the way I felt about the problem in that moment as I was trying to manifest, I really did it with no kind of expectation of any kind of immediate result but lo and behold, the very next day after the better part of two months of total silence, she called me and said that for the good of our child she had decided that what she wanted was not a divorce but separation because she wanted me to be involved in our son's life.

Of course this was not really what I was looking for but I did not argue, did not help her by expressing anything at all that she could disagree with, and said nothing but that I thought she had done the right thing and knew best what to do, but that I did not have much time to talk.

She was flabbergasted not only that I was giving her nothing to argue about but that I did not really even seem to want to talk to her much longer or ask her for anything or tell her anything in particular.

When she saw me accepting her silence and her absence without any apparent problem it was like watching the gun she has had stuck to my head all this time just melt in her hand.

She called me again today with something a little more like an ultimatum about giving her some money for our boy or going in front of a divorce mediator, and it still was not a very "nice" ice breaker in the conversation but there was a constructive conversation that followed that ended with us both feeling better and no one feeling they had beat or been beaten by anyone else.

Anyway the process is not at either end but it is finally moving in a good direction and I cannot help but to think that there is a high likelihood that I have all of you here to thank for teaching me what I needed to know to get things moving in this direction.

Maybe the book I am referring to is so well known in this forum that me mentioning it is like trying to teach my granny to suck eggs but I really got a lot out of it. It is Depak Chopra's "The Seven Spiritual Laws Of Success".

I like it so much in fact that I bought a Japanese copy of yesterday without really being sure who I intended to give it to and then I got the call today from my wife during which I mentioned it to my wife and she said she was willing to read it.

It will be interesting for me to see what she thinks of it. I would be truly thankful if she can actually get some comfort and peace from it. She is still seriously confused and conflicted and angry but I think she is getting tired of being that way and may be receptive to its message.