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AliB1959 · 11-07-2009, 04:13 PM

Bamboo Moon, you sound exhausted. It's frustrating when the person who is your equal/partner in your main relationship refuses to act like an equal/partner and be responsible for their own actions and feelings.

What you're describing reminds me of John Bradshaw's shows on family dynamics. It seems like the steadier and middle of the road you are, the crazier and "out there" your husbands behavior becomes. You keep the core steady and by finding the place (or attitude you have to take) to keep things from going off the deep end.

Having kids of your own brings up stuff from your childhood (your husbands, too) and he very well could be subconciously working out some things from his childhood. What was his parents marriage like?

At any rate, it sounds like you need a few days of R & R without all the pressure and drama. Maybe grandparents can take your daughter and you can get away by yourself to just relax and get some rest. Being tired, pregnant and frustrated/angry/resentful is not a good time to make major life decisions, but it can be a great time to journal, get some self time and find a fresh perspective.

Take good care of yourself. What you want for yourself and in your life matters - it's not being arrogant or selfish.

Ali

11-07-2009, 04:13 PM	#18 (permalink)
AliB1959 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 192	Bamboo Moon, you sound exhausted. It's frustrating when the person who is your equal/partner in your main relationship refuses to act like an equal/partner and be responsible for their own actions and feelings. What you're describing reminds me of John Bradshaw's shows on family dynamics. It seems like the steadier and middle of the road you are, the crazier and "out there" your husbands behavior becomes. You keep the core steady and by finding the place (or attitude you have to take) to keep things from going off the deep end. Having kids of your own brings up stuff from your childhood (your husbands, too) and he very well could be subconciously working out some things from his childhood. What was his parents marriage like? At any rate, it sounds like you need a few days of R & R without all the pressure and drama. Maybe grandparents can take your daughter and you can get away by yourself to just relax and get some rest. Being tired, pregnant and frustrated/angry/resentful is not a good time to make major life decisions, but it can be a great time to journal, get some self time and find a fresh perspective. Take good care of yourself. What you want for yourself and in your life matters - it's not being arrogant or selfish. Ali Last edited by AliB1959; 11-07-2009 at 04:28 PM.