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rei · 11-07-2009, 06:18 AM

i agree with Chris. you don't need to seek medical assistance for being attracted to either gender. i think there is a touch of ignorance in any ideas that suggest you should seek medical help for being gay. as Chris said, those therapies to 'turn' a person straight are not ethical and should be avoided since they don't even seem to work (some people break down - after being shocked with electricity!!! - and say they aren't gay anymore, but most people would say whatever it took to stop being jolted with massive doses of electricity. yes, we could rightly compare those methods with torture.) but if you begin to be overwhelmed with these ideas of being worthy of life, definitely see a professional or call a hotline.

your life is not wasted! there is actually no shame in being gay, but the culture at large has issues with it. that is THEIR problem, not yours. you are just being true to who you are - there is NO shame in that!

in a way you might even find a reason to see this as a blessing. many people don't realize they are gay until later in life because they are so plugged into what the people around them believe is 'right' - and you have picked up on it early!

adolescence is a rough time anyway, and being gay is not universally accepted so i admit it can be a challenge. i think the first thing you need to do is realize you are worthy of your life. you have shown great strength and courage by coming out here, and i think the majority of the posts have been encouraging of your choices.

there are gay men who have families... they adopt or they speak with a friend to carry a child for them; there are probably other options as well. it can definitely be done. i hope you will see yourself as worthy, as courageous for being true to who you are, and i hope you come to a place of greater acceptance of yourself.

11-07-2009, 06:18 AM	#19 (permalink)
rei Family Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: earth, everywhere and nowhere Posts: 9,713	i agree with Chris. you don't need to seek medical assistance for being attracted to either gender. i think there is a touch of ignorance in any ideas that suggest you should seek medical help for being gay. as Chris said, those therapies to 'turn' a person straight are not ethical and should be avoided since they don't even seem to work (some people break down - after being shocked with electricity!!! - and say they aren't gay anymore, but most people would say whatever it took to stop being jolted with massive doses of electricity. yes, we could rightly compare those methods with torture.) but if you begin to be overwhelmed with these ideas of being worthy of life, definitely see a professional or call a hotline. your life is not wasted! there is actually no shame in being gay, but the culture at large has issues with it. that is THEIR problem, not yours. you are just being true to who you are - there is NO shame in that! in a way you might even find a reason to see this as a blessing. many people don't realize they are gay until later in life because they are so plugged into what the people around them believe is 'right' - and you have picked up on it early! adolescence is a rough time anyway, and being gay is not universally accepted so i admit it can be a challenge. i think the first thing you need to do is realize you are worthy of your life. you have shown great strength and courage by coming out here, and i think the majority of the posts have been encouraging of your choices. there are gay men who have families... they adopt or they speak with a friend to carry a child for them; there are probably other options as well. it can definitely be done. i hope you will see yourself as worthy, as courageous for being true to who you are, and i hope you come to a place of greater acceptance of yourself. Last edited by rei; 11-07-2009 at 06:21 AM.