I am on the other side of this fence, I want my kid to get away from me! He has come thru some really hard times the past few years and called and asked if he could come stay with me for awhile, so he could get his finances straight. Here it is a year later and he is in a bigger mess than when he first came.
I would like my home back the way it was. I don't want to see his messes all over the house. I don't like the way he does a lot of things. But I keep my mouth shut. My opionions to myself.
Where is that fine line of being an individual, and not enabling someone? I have spoken to him about getting his own place, soon. His excuses make me tired. What gives a grown child the right to not have something said to them? If you or anyone else were in my home doing these things I would certainly say something.
If I say anything I am treating him like a child. If I don't say anything I am miserable in my own home. So, in defense of parents of grown children living in thier homes, you want to be treated like an adult, then act like one. Granted, I do not put my kid down or tell him he will fail, and I do want him to succeed.
If someone is being irresponsible it is what it is. Get a life!! and stop blaming your parents.
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