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Originally Posted by Holistic Star  At the time I didn't listen, but a few years later after 3 years with a guy where we were broke and I mean really broke all the time and he refused to work and spent all the money I earned on fags and booze and gambled the rest away, then berated me for being materialistic when i worried about paying the rent on our damp, mouldy one room flat, I finally got what my dad meant. |
But it's not the brokenness itself that made you leave. It was the qualities (if I can call it like that!) of the guy. One of their manifestations was the lack of money. Other manifestations were probably big relationship issues. This had nothing to do with status or not status!
This reminds me that I forgot to mention selection level 0. A guy who's broke or has no status sometimes is broke or has no status because he's unable to take responsibility for himself, or unable to create any value, or he has a scarcity mindset, or low self-esteem, or he thinks he is a loser, or he lacks self-confidence, etc. Do we want to be in a relationship with such guys? Duh, no! This is just a recipe for lots of future relationship trouble.
Is it about the money or status? Duh, no! It's because of the qualities of the guys behind it. The presence or absence of money or status is just a physical manifestation of it. There will be others as well, and we don't want those!
Do we talk about this? Well, no. That's "duh".