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Originally Posted by Parthon  cylon loves being misunderstood by everyone. 
I do have one point to bring up:
Men, even conscious ones, really are concerned with the gap between what a woman says she wants and what she responds to and the attraction to just status. Of course, the regular response is to immediately dismiss the concern and reply with a dozen examples of how it's not true, or how it doesn't apply to all women, which doesn't actually address the concern at all.
So many men, maybe even the majority, really have the concern that women are only after status or money. Even when the woman says they want honesty, sincerity, and trust, the seem to be mistaken and forget to add "as well, as long as they are rich."
I don't care if the concern is accurate or not, but it's a real concern, as a concern. How would a man go about getting rid of this concern, given that dismissing it's not an option and the concern seems to be continually proved right? |
When I was a teenager my dad gave me some advice about dating that has stuck with me forever. At the time I was of the opinion that anyone with money was a fake / phoney / shallow / insincere etc so I was dragging home a series of homeless guys and drop-outs that I was dating because in my mind they were 'more real'.
Anyway, what my dad said was, 'Never marry for money. But don't marry where there isn't any either.'
At the time I didn't listen, but a few years later after 3 years with a guy where we were broke and I mean really broke all the time and he refused to work and spent all the money I earned on fags and booze and gambled the rest away, then berated me for being materialistic when i worried about paying the rent on our damp, mouldy one room flat, I finally got what my dad meant.
Lack of prospects makes things miserable. When you are cold and hungry and worried about having a roof over your head life is hard.
So I listened to my dad. I didn't marry for money, but I didn't marry someone who wanted to live his life on benefits either.