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Originally Posted by Gracestars  I might get in trouble from the ladies in the house for this one.. And whilst I classify myself a feminist, I agree that letting a man open jar lid that won't budge, or reaching something high, or dealing with a spider, or changing a light bulb, every now and then is not a bad thing. And I personally feel quite comfortable in my "femininity" in doing so. This does not negate our ability as women to manage life perfectly well on our own, but i think it does make men feel more useful and I don't see a problem with that. |
No trouble from me either, Grace.
I don't think it's a "bad" thing. It's just that the few times I behaved that way in the past, I felt uncomfortable with it. I felt... kinda dirty. As if it weren't aligned with integrity. Because in some way I was playing a role. I wasn't being my genuine self. Plus, I felt kinda condescending. It was like "You need to feel useful, poor darling... here, you have something to do so that you feel like a man...".
I'm not saying in any way that you are dirty or condescending, Grace!! That's just how I personally felt back then. Because actually,
I felt like proudly showing that I was strong and could help them. Fixing the clogged sink was my way of showing that I cared.
So in some way I can understand very well what cylon means.