cylon, what you are saying makes sense. it is helpful to know how many guys are hoping to serve in a situation (edit: meaning how they would like to feel appreciated, what gives them purpose, not some kind of power dynamic intended with the word "serve"). i do know a lot of males like to be heroes, helping someone who needs it, and i think that is awesome! sometimes even women who say 'hmph! i don't need a man!' get a flat tire and are incredibly grateful if a guy happens to stop to help them. women's empowerment does not have to mean guys are no longer helpful, or that is not true for every empowered woman. but we've talked about that before
what i meant with that quoted statement... it's not so much the interpersonal stuff that i was talking about. i'm referring to having an individual belief system which largely explains the gender relation dynamics as a product of brain chemistry. while i don't doubt that what you are saying is true, i feel like it might be harder to remain truly accountable for our actions if we can so easily rely on neurochemistry as the reason/excuse/etc. for behavior. (geez i sound like a right-winger with all this personal responsibility rhetoric
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