Rose, let me give you an example.
Every girl I've ever known (and probably will know) says they pretty much want the same thing in a guy: they want a guy that treats them right, a nice guy, a handsome guy, a good father, etc.
Now, on the surface, I've always been all of those things. (yes, I narcissistically think of myself as "handsome"
) And to boot, on the surface, I have a great job and the ability to provide for a woman.
However, women haven't always responded to me. I mean, with my outer credentials, you'd think women would've lined the block wanting to get with a guy like me. But, sadly, that wasn't the case. I was always the guy who get friendzoned. Women never thought of me as anything more than a friend. I had a handful of girls date me before I got married, but most girls looked through me without a second thought.
Why? Why did all those girls say (and even said it to ME, after knowing me) they wanted a guy just like me, but when I'd ask them out they'd tell me they didn't see me like that?
The reason was because I was the type of guy every girl wanted, but I was also the type of guy who didn't have a clue as to what women RESPOND to.
The solution, I discovered, wasn't to change who I am (women love who I am, always have and always will). The solution was to change how I PRESENT MYSELF to women. How I market myself. THere's a certain element of "chase" that you have to do to get women to respond to that most men (who aren't good with women) don't even realize that they need to be doing.
so what do most men do? They start changing WHO THEY ARE instead of how they interact with women. And in doing so they end up bitter and disrespecting women because on the surface it looks like women don't really know what they want. But the truth is that they don't know what they respond to.