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Originally Posted by Tonton Macoute  if I give in and start going out with her I can see myself falling into old habits and not giving the attention my life needs in areas like college or health/
likewise if I don't go this route I'm gonna drive her away.
she says shes happier now then she's ever been and wouldn't want to go back to her old relationship but I still feel like I'm just being the old boring guy. |
Boring? Don't you see that the old habits of drugs and alcohol is being a slave of fashion? You can tell what products they consume, and you also may estimate the budget for it.
If you ask me, freedom is advertised as boring by those who make money with such slaves.
Now you are free. And not going there is to enforce your freedom. you may not like to be enslaved by your old habits. Those who sell alcohol and drugs will not pay your bills if you get sick.
As for her, I'd say that if she wants to stay, she will stay. Else she will leave and you should accept both possibilities. In the end what makes you to stay together is if both have compatible life plans. Discuss her life plan.
She is too young, likely not to understand true freedom, and likely to fall in the trap of advertising and social pressures towards the slavery of a certain type of consumption.
You may like to talk about freedom to her. I bet she will enjoy more her freedom if she is away from the slavery of consumption and being a puppet of social pressures.
She may have a life plan. Help her to make it come true, and tell her you may like her to do that with yours too.
Do not let resentment to get in the way when you have to argue. It will make the relationship to last longer.