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Originally Posted by James81  A quick example of how social stigma mars a woman's true feelings about something: Social stigma says that women want nice, slow, romantic sex. But I've never been with a woman who RESPONDED to that. The girls I've been with get more excited the harder/rougher it gets. |
Perhaps that's been your experience but it's not true all the time and I think I should clarify that while a certain amount of forcefulness can be sexy, harder/rougher is definitely not a continuous scale.
If a guy is confidently physical with a woman, then that tells the woman he finds her sexy, and that's exciting. But if he's pounding away at her ovaries because he thinks the ladies like it rough, then her sighs at the end are likely to be of relief that it's over, not satisfaction!
And from a woman's perspective, sometimes slow and teasing IS exactly what we want. A guy who's good in bed is one who can read and respond to the signals about what kind of mood his partner is in, not one who thinks that if it worked once one way, it'll work that way every time.