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CroMagna · 11-05-2009, 06:27 PM

My family treats me like a toddler. It's given me an aversion to them. I feel like their attitude towards me (that I'm a lazy ne'er do well) is making me lazier.

The problem is: my family is everywhere! I live with my mom, aunt, and grandmother. I work for my aunt. My other family members come by the job and home often.

I can't get away from them and their pressure. When I talk to therapists, they say I'm doing fine. They encourage me to be an adult, to be responsible, to have self-respect, to think for myself, and to be free. They do all of this compassionately without making me feel like a failure.

My family does just the opposite and they are actually impeding on my progress. They order me around, they treat me like a child but then get mad and say that I'm almost 30 and still living like a child. They don't know anything about me. For example they don't like that I'm LGBT. So there's this psychological wall between us.

I would really like to relocate to Brazil but they have shaken my confidence by saying that I will get down there and have an anxiety attack or get drunk and end up getting kidnapped or something, then I'll be calling home saying I got fired or something.

I would like to be out of their hair for good in 4 months. I would also like to reduce this anxiety problem and lose weight. Is there any way out?

11-05-2009, 06:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
CroMagna Family Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,975	I want to get away from my family My family treats me like a toddler. It's given me an aversion to them. I feel like their attitude towards me (that I'm a lazy ne'er do well) is making me lazier. The problem is: my family is everywhere! I live with my mom, aunt, and grandmother. I work for my aunt. My other family members come by the job and home often. I can't get away from them and their pressure. When I talk to therapists, they say I'm doing fine. They encourage me to be an adult, to be responsible, to have self-respect, to think for myself, and to be free. They do all of this compassionately without making me feel like a failure. My family does just the opposite and they are actually impeding on my progress. They order me around, they treat me like a child but then get mad and say that I'm almost 30 and still living like a child. They don't know anything about me. For example they don't like that I'm LGBT. So there's this psychological wall between us. I would really like to relocate to Brazil but they have shaken my confidence by saying that I will get down there and have an anxiety attack or get drunk and end up getting kidnapped or something, then I'll be calling home saying I got fired or something. I would like to be out of their hair for good in 4 months. I would also like to reduce this anxiety problem and lose weight. Is there any way out?