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Originally Posted by marinik  I have this in my youngest daughters relationship. Her boyfriend is over mothered. I on the other hand always thought that being a good parent is knowing when to let go on time for all steps of growing up. So they have this problem of totally opposite backgrounds where he is this "worrying" type like his mother and my daughter being absolutely her own independent mature for her age person (both 19). It is so interesting to watch how they interact. |
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Well basically, it's not a problem for me anymore being over-mothered, because I'm 28, and I have my own apartment (I'm paying off a mortgage). It was a big problem for me growing up though, and enforcing boundaries was difficult because my mum could easily be upset.. my grandparents are worriers too..
There's people out there with way bigger parental problems than me.. like I had a friend who got kicked out of home when he was 13.
So independence isn't the problem. It's all about developing myself, and trying to overcome the bad habits / thought patterns I picked up from my mother. Because I plan to be more with my life than be a paranoid jellyfish, and I'm going to need to be more confident to achieve my goals...