The good thing is that you've recognized that you're repeating your mother's pattern. I remember catching myself repeating some of my parents' behaviour, then you go ''no way
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Originally Posted by brendannz  But the problem is, I think I've become a neurotic over-polite worrier, and picked up these traits |
Do these traits surface in all areas of your life or just in some? And what's the difference?
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Originally Posted by brendannz It seems like I can't love anyone, because I'll put too much energy into it.. etc. |
Do you mean you try to please everyone because you're afraid they won't like you if you don't?
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Originally Posted by brendannz I want to be a more confident person, and able to trust others.. and not a permanently worried jellyfish.. |
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Originally Posted by brendannz Yep, I wanna believe more that I can trust people |
On the matter of trusting people, what has your experience been so far? When you look at the people/situations where you've trusted someone, how many times were you right or ''wrong''?
I think we sometimes take a few occasions where we feel we shouldn't have trusted someone and turn them into our overall attitude, instead of just learning from those experiences.