ASK him to consider getting up early to do the work so it's done and over with early; and if he really needs that much sleep, to take a nap later. If he's agreeable to that; problem solved.
It seems like a petty argument on the surface, but it's those very type of unresolved disagreements that can lead to resentments and ultimately, bad outcomes.
Communicate, maybe stop doing 98% of everything; but gradually; not all at once; or he'll just think you're being vindictive; trust me on that, I'm a guy and I've been in your shoes; as well as his. I know what it's like to be stuck doing everything AND work full time. But if it's gradual and handled well; and openly, he'll realize what you DO, do, and likely appreciate you all the more for it. he may be clueless as to how much you actually do, and if he is, it may not be his fault and he may not be doing anything wrong INTENTIONALLY.
Men typically don't ask for much for the most part. They want to be appreciated and not nagged at. We like peace in our homes. Try and settle this thing agreeably and; in an encouraging and complimentary way, and I'll BET you get more out of him.
Men will usually do almost anything for their wives if they feel like they're truly appreciated. I know that applies to women as well, but many women don't realize how important it is to men too.
OTOH, if the two of you are regimented in your routine in how you divide up the chores, you may have to develop more flexible habits and accommodate one another a bit more. Better to get it out in the open than let any resentments build up though; regardless of how you decide to approach it.
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