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It's very true that our parents condition us.. it's more true to say that our parents take us from perfectly born children to NEUROTIC mess's.. I mean they do it with love (sort of) they don't know what they're doing or how there doing it.. there just repeating a cycle of old.  (the cycle is ending )
I wouldn't focus on what your mom thinks.. who you are is.. what you think.. you maybe adopted her habits you just have to decide if there useful for you or not.. if you don't think so.. then the simplest answer is to say "that's not for me"
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Yeah, actually I think its just a matter of being my own independent self with my own self-confidence
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2/ enforcing new beliefs..
Since each of us is a individual it's impossible for me to give you advice since your beliefs come from your parents and from the ones you created  |
Yep, I wanna believe more that I can trust people, that I can relate to people, etc. develop more positive beliefs.
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To understand a higher perspective of ourselves is to understand we our PERFECT, nothing we ever do is WRONG, there is no WRONG choice or ANSWER.
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Indeed, I was more meaning, let the past be the past, and live in the present for the future..
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You can say that you don't have perfect parents.. but you see that's judgment on your parents.. don't judge.. I don't recommend it.. judging gets you into all kinds of tricky places |
So they're perfect for only being human..
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I suggest you take control of your reality..
Does this help?
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Sort of, I guess, since only I can control my reality, only I can help myself
But you helped me put some things into perspective. Yeah, to be honest, I wasn't sure if this was a genuine problem, that I needed help with, I was just putting it in writing as a way to discuss it with smart people and get more perspective...
guess I'm just looking to develop my own confidence, and not be a victim..