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themaster · 11-05-2009, 11:39 AM

Anyone have any advice on this?

It's very true that our parents condition us.. it's more true to say that our parents take us from perfectly born children to NEUROTIC mess's.. I mean they do it with love (sort of) they don't know what they're doing or how there doing it.. there just repeating a cycle of old.

(the cycle is ending

)

I wouldn't focus on what your mom thinks.. who you are is.. what you think.. you maybe adopted her habits you just have to decide if there useful for you or not.. if you don't think so.. then the simplest answer is to say "that's not for me"

1/ breaking free from this faulty conditioning.

You don't have to break free of anything.. I'm guess I'm saying.. there is no problem if you don't indentify it as such.. but alright let's say it's running and you see it running.. stop yourself right there and say this is not "who I am" and change whatever you doing in action, mannerism, thinking to "this is who I am" simple enough? (or not

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2/ enforcing new beliefs..

You know honestly I don't think beliefs serve us.. there limiting in whatever way there designed.. when my teacher talks about them, he sometimes doesn't mention how to get rid of them completely

I think the idea might be however to adopt beliefs that are "unlimited" in that way there is no limitation..

If you understand how beliefs operate in your reality.. then you know they have a re-enforcing mechanism.. they will double check you and triple check you and in each case you simply have to respond "no, this is who I am now.. with the new belief" it is possible and I want to be clear to drop beliefs completely without being checked on.. but some beliefs run persistence checks

Since each of us is a individual it's impossible for me to give you advice since your beliefs come from your parents and from the ones you created

3/ Accepting things the way they were, you can never really have perfect parents..

This statement.. the way you wrote it.. sounds like you don't BELIEVE it (like it's a belief).. To understand a higher perspective of ourselves is to understand we our PERFECT, nothing we ever do is WRONG, there is no WRONG choice or ANSWER.

You can say that you don't have perfect parents.. but you see that's judgment on your parents.. don't judge.. I don't recommend it.. judging gets you into all kinds of tricky places

Accepting things the way they are is a true statement.. but it's also can be from the perspective of lack.. it means from a lack perspective.. that you believe you can't change it.. this is incorrect..

If you understand the spiritual journey at all.. the journey tells you, simply.. all change comes from WITHIN.. it is not external to you.. it is not in validation of your parents or peers eyes.. it is validating you within your own EYES.

So if you see "Accepting things the way they are" as a statement of lack?? as a negative statement that you have no power to change things?? I suggest you take control of your reality.. this is what Law of Attraction is here to teach.. that you are in control.. that you do make a difference and that everything is you, for you, designed by you and YOU (and yah that's a lot U's

)

Does this help?

11-05-2009, 11:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
themaster Banned Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: I'm a traveler everywhere and nowhere.. currently in Denver.. where else? Posts: 3,618	Anyone have any advice on this? It's very true that our parents condition us.. it's more true to say that our parents take us from perfectly born children to NEUROTIC mess's.. I mean they do it with love (sort of) they don't know what they're doing or how there doing it.. there just repeating a cycle of old. (the cycle is ending ) I wouldn't focus on what your mom thinks.. who you are is.. what you think.. you maybe adopted her habits you just have to decide if there useful for you or not.. if you don't think so.. then the simplest answer is to say "that's not for me" 1/ breaking free from this faulty conditioning. You don't have to break free of anything.. I'm guess I'm saying.. there is no problem if you don't indentify it as such.. but alright let's say it's running and you see it running.. stop yourself right there and say this is not "who I am" and change whatever you doing in action, mannerism, thinking to "this is who I am" simple enough? (or not ) 2/ enforcing new beliefs.. You know honestly I don't think beliefs serve us.. there limiting in whatever way there designed.. when my teacher talks about them, he sometimes doesn't mention how to get rid of them completely I think the idea might be however to adopt beliefs that are "unlimited" in that way there is no limitation.. If you understand how beliefs operate in your reality.. then you know they have a re-enforcing mechanism.. they will double check you and triple check you and in each case you simply have to respond "no, this is who I am now.. with the new belief" it is possible and I want to be clear to drop beliefs completely without being checked on.. but some beliefs run persistence checks Since each of us is a individual it's impossible for me to give you advice since your beliefs come from your parents and from the ones you created 3/ Accepting things the way they were, you can never really have perfect parents.. This statement.. the way you wrote it.. sounds like you don't BELIEVE it (like it's a belief).. To understand a higher perspective of ourselves is to understand we our PERFECT, nothing we ever do is WRONG, there is no WRONG choice or ANSWER. You can say that you don't have perfect parents.. but you see that's judgment on your parents.. don't judge.. I don't recommend it.. judging gets you into all kinds of tricky places Accepting things the way they are is a true statement.. but it's also can be from the perspective of lack.. it means from a lack perspective.. that you believe you can't change it.. this is incorrect.. If you understand the spiritual journey at all.. the journey tells you, simply.. all change comes from WITHIN.. it is not external to you.. it is not in validation of your parents or peers eyes.. it is validating you within your own EYES. So if you see "Accepting things the way they are" as a statement of lack?? as a negative statement that you have no power to change things?? I suggest you take control of your reality.. this is what Law of Attraction is here to teach.. that you are in control.. that you do make a difference and that everything is you, for you, designed by you and YOU (and yah that's a lot U's ) Does this help? Last edited by themaster; 11-05-2009 at 11:46 AM.