Hi all,
thank you so much for your answers.
In the end we settled on me saying that it is ok I would do everything (without any resentment or bad feelings, or expectations that he would do anything) and him doing everything (and then some) that I wanted him to do...
I appologized for being angry and sort of screaming to him, and he admitted that he knows that sometimes he can be an *ss (which is as close to appologizing as I can expect from him, which is ok with me).
We do have this settled in Mexico, since we will have a maid to do most of the work, and until I find a job I will do the rest. Once I have a job, we will have a maid for everything
Our main problem is that we see our relationship from 2 different view points because we have different things that we find important. It happened a lot of times that we were having a heated argument (not a fight) and that in the end it turns out we both agree and are trying to argue the same thing. We just have 2 very different styles of communication.
This is ok, because we are both aware of it, and although it leads to misunderstandings, it does not break anything or hurts us in our relationship.
I wrote this when I was angry, and it helped to clear my head... I mainly wanted to know if I had a complete blindspot here that I wasnŽt aware of. Which I now see that it doesnt really matter... him being wrong or me being wrong is wrong either way
IŽll just settle for both of us being right
