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Originally Posted by whattodo  I am gay. When i was young, and before i hit puberty, i had not worried about it one bit. but, when puberty struck, i started noticing my attraction for boys. the main reason i wrote this thread is to ask you all, is my life worth living? I look at all the guys out there and i feel like i am missing many things. i feel like i dont have what they have, their looks, their love lives, their social lives. i feel sad. sometimes i wonder, will i ever get children, will i ever get a family, because i dont feel attraction for women,and it is impossible to marry another man i love, because my family is defintely against that. not to mention society looking down on it. I am still in the closet and have told no one except you all. is my life realy worth living, you tell me. should i life live like every other human being, or is my life wasted because i turned out to be gay.
please think this carefully. i rely on you to save me. |
Of course your life is worth living.
And it's no wonder you're sad -- you believe you can't have the things you desire. That would make anyone unhappy.
The fact is, you can have everything you ever wanted, and even more wonderful things that you can't even imagine, provided that your happiness is NOT contingent upon other people's opinion of you. There will ALWAYS be someone out there who does not jive with who and what you are, no matter WHO you are -- gay, straight, whatever. Now, get over this little fact, and you can begin to create the life you desire. THEY don't have to be in your life. When you make YOUR happiness dependent on OTHER people, you are setting yourself up for misery. Learn to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, you have nothing to offer anyone anyhow.
See the beauty in yourself, and others will see it too. I'm serious. Learn to love who and what you are, and you will become RADIANT.
Lot's of people are gay and have wonderful lives. Have faith that things are exactly how they should be. It is not wrong to be gay. Stop seeing problems and start seeing opportunities. If your family can't accept you the way you are, then they aren't your family. And if that is the case, you WILL find your family of friends, and they WILL care about you.
Just because you are attracted to men, doesn't mean you can't have children. There is adoption of course, and who knows, perhaps you have a female friend who would be willing to be an artificially inseminated surrogate for you.
And why worry yourself over marriage? Do you really need a certificate to tell you that you love your significant other? Marriage is overrated. Start making your OWN rules. You are an incredibly powerful being, you just need to realize this fact.
Best of luck and love to you.
