Originally Posted by lisakimberly  My beloved had an unexpected dissection of this carotid artery leading to a massive right hemisphere stroke (hemiplegia, hemi-neglect, visual impairment, etc- language & cognition good- short term memory slighty affected, now impulsive, judgment not great). The neurologist has not been positive about the future. He was sent home after a short stint at Rehab because they said he plateaued. This was about 4 months after the stroke, which happened in the first week of March 2009, while we were away on a scuba diving holiday - no the diving had nothing to do wtih it you panic artists - (right after seeing his GP and getting a clean bill....).
Any how fast forward to November 3, nearly 8 months later, and I find myself working full time, coming home to take care of him, and having a hard time with it. I replace the daytime caregiver. Our life is upside down (he is wheelchair bound). We were active togther- scuba diving , hiking, walking the dogs, skiing, etc. I don't want to resent him or be ungrateful for what I do/still have. I know his impatience was a character attribute before (we were together nearly 17 years when this happened) but some of his behaviours are different now. Is there any one out there in a simillar situtation? Not able to find/go to a local support group, and thinking that's probably hat I need about now, No life for myself, haven't painted since February, hardly get to ride my horse as he can never be left alone.....advice? I am going to osteopath, therapist, acupuncutrist, now adding shiatsu -trying to maintain my physical/emotional self b.c. if I get sick he has NO ONE ELSE -his dad's 90 and his siter lives out of town, his mom's deceased and his kids are in uinversity out of town. THANK YOU
p.s. yes I have read & own "the brain that changes itself", & "my stroke of insight"- we are talking almost the whole right brain here- only occipital and frontal seem unscathed, mostly.... |