Hi Rei,
It's easy to be confused about sexuality and gender. I still am! I have many friends who are gay and bi, and I am attracted to both genders but I've only been with men, so I generally say I'm straight because I've not had much desire to explore being with a woman. I find that a lot of people see gender and sexuality as the same thing but they are not. Being androgynous or a masculine woman, feeling more butch or femme on one day than another... I think it's ok that your gender feels fluid. I don't think you should worry that you are misreprenting yourself. Having long hair or wearing skirts and being attracted to women isn't really contradictory! Sexuality is something that I think is related to gender but being confused about sexuality and confused about gender are two different things. I think that what Michelle said about "joyful exploration" is the best bet too. Imagining what you would like to have out of a sexual experience is important. I think that it's easy to get hung up on sex whereas really, what is most important, is finding the connection with someone that is especially good, and then the sex will follow. Hope I made a little sense. Good luck!
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