If you're going to talk to them, I might suggest it would be best to do it individually, and in a way that helps them draw out their own feelings so that you can acknowledge them as okay, rather than trying to tell them what they should do.
So rather than 'Mom, it's obvious that you and Dad aren't happy. I think you should get a divorce' you could ask a series of questions that would help you understand the reasons they've stayed in the relationship despite its appearance of dysfunctionality. 'Mom, I notice you and Dad fight a lot and it makes me uncomfortable. Does it bother you?' 'Does being married to Mom make you happy Dad?' 'Have you ever imagined trying to live separate lives?'
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