Having just moved across the ocean 2 months ago (from Canada to Georgia the country, not the state), I know all about these sorts of arguments. I can assure you that most of them are because of the stress - now, 2 months into being in Tbilisi and everything is back to it's normal state. Before we left however, my boyfriend and I were having the same arguments as you.
I don't know about you, but when he would tell me I'm selfish I would jump into defensive mode and get angry. That never solved anything. As hard as it may be in the moment, take a breather and try and talk to him calmly. If I talk to my boyfriend in a calm voice he is 99% more responsive. Perhaps all men are like that?
Good luck with the move!
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