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blossom · 11-04-2009, 10:57 AM

This is pretty interesting!

Not necessarily. Because we are all different and some people mix better with certain types than others, if you are in a group setting, like at a party, then it can feel like everyone is having the same fun that you are, and when you speak to someone, just one on one, you can usually tell if they are genuinely interested in you or if they are distracted and would rather be somewhere else. Sometimes though, a person can totally miss what is going on for another person as they may be being self-centred at some stage, and so they may think that they are well liked by others, when infact they are not...or everyone may think that everyone likes everyone, but then later on, maybe a week later or longer a person may work out that they really don't like a particular person, but the other person doesn't know it and thinks they do like them...does this make sense?

I think humans do operate this way, also, when one person speaks to you with lots of enthusiasm, and it's real enthusiasm, not that fake over-excited salesman enthusiasm, then it can make you respond with the same enthusiasm in your voice because you're attracted to that enthusiasm, so you mirror it, and for a brief moment it lifts you out of the regularity that you usually speak with.
That's why people love an enthusiastic person...their mood influences everyone elses...and vice versa. When you are around a depressed person, it's hard, for both parties. The depressed person knows that the vibe they give off is contagious and it makes them even more uncomfortable, and the other person can get dragged down into that mood too if they're not careful. Happy people tend to stick to other happy people and misery loves company also!

NLP people use this principle of human interraction alot in their teachings.

11-04-2009, 10:57 AM	#2 (permalink)
blossom Banned Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,897	This is pretty interesting! Not necessarily. Because we are all different and some people mix better with certain types than others, if you are in a group setting, like at a party, then it can feel like everyone is having the same fun that you are, and when you speak to someone, just one on one, you can usually tell if they are genuinely interested in you or if they are distracted and would rather be somewhere else. Sometimes though, a person can totally miss what is going on for another person as they may be being self-centred at some stage, and so they may think that they are well liked by others, when infact they are not...or everyone may think that everyone likes everyone, but then later on, maybe a week later or longer a person may work out that they really don't like a particular person, but the other person doesn't know it and thinks they do like them...does this make sense? I think humans do operate this way, also, when one person speaks to you with lots of enthusiasm, and it's real enthusiasm, not that fake over-excited salesman enthusiasm, then it can make you respond with the same enthusiasm in your voice because you're attracted to that enthusiasm, so you mirror it, and for a brief moment it lifts you out of the regularity that you usually speak with. That's why people love an enthusiastic person...their mood influences everyone elses...and vice versa. When you are around a depressed person, it's hard, for both parties. The depressed person knows that the vibe they give off is contagious and it makes them even more uncomfortable, and the other person can get dragged down into that mood too if they're not careful. Happy people tend to stick to other happy people and misery loves company also! NLP people use this principle of human interraction alot in their teachings. Last edited by blossom; 11-04-2009 at 11:03 AM.