[Nimo]

Hey Steve, I can imagine that it'd be 'freaky' to have such an influence on p'ple & their relationships but ultimately, it is their decision what they do with their relationships/lives. Whether couples separate, re-arrange or become more conscious is very much a personal decision. Take for instance, what I get from your posts is the urge to live my life boldly & without apology/regret..from your divorce & interest in polyamory, i've learnt that i can pursue that which i want even when it is seemingly 'against' society as we know it. I choose to live my life authentically and push my limits to see how far i can stretch. I thank you for providing me a platform to further my knowledge and growth. Reading through some of these postings, i wonder if p'ple have conditioned their lives for certain outcomes e.g divorce= misery; new r'ship= joy; retrenchment= death..it need not be this way. I'd be sad, mad even angry at the event of a divorce but thats just it, i doubt i would stay in a marriage that stiffles my growth or makes me sad just because 'divorce is unchristian' or 'will cause me much pain'. i'd also CHOOSE to see the end of a job as an opp to explore other options. Imo, America has blown this 'divorce affects children adversely' was out of proportion. I lecture in Sociology & understand the impact of family in socializing the child but having said that, it's a little overrated. My parents didn't divorce but i have issues similar to my orphaned & single-mom friends. Kudos for not letting guys whip u up with the 'abandoning ur kids scripts'. My Kyle's father left, am adequate. Your Kyle & little girl will be just fine. Erin is capable. Anyways,we choose what emotions to react to or ignore & thats what makes the difference. Isn't the underlying teaching of LoA 'what u place your focus on grows'?. I chose happiness, joy, thoughts of prosperity, love even when s**t hits the fan. Tx Steve & Erin. Baraka Tele (means Blessings aplenty in Swahili).