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blossom · 11-04-2009, 05:51 AM

Firstly, it's a pleasure.

Secondly, I am not sure whether it would be your thing or not, as many people equate martial arts with being too violent. It has worked wonders for me though, and being partially introverted I can say that I understand about not feeling like I'm O.K. I guess reminding yourself that you are o.k is probably a good start, even if it doesn't feel that way.

I do a particular MA called Shizen Ryu-or Natures Way, and it's based on the Taoist philosophy with meditation incorporated and heightened sense of energy and knowledge of the human anatomy and pressure points. I am reall natural at it, so for me, it's interesting. And it definately helps boost confidence, and you get fit...which was never that high on my priorites, but now that it is happening, it feels pretty good actually, which can affect your overall self-image and feelings oinside.

Self-confidence can be a tricky one...and everyone will slide now and then, and have a low self-esteem week or not be totally feeling ok...and that's o.k...it's realistic because we are always changing, in our circumstances, in our reality and habits etc. You could try some form of creative pursuit that you haven't tried before, and work on it. Even if you suck aat it at first, eventually you'll get better at it, and it can really help with the way you feel about yourself, to be able to sit back and go "Wow, I did that...I created that!
Try writing a list of 20 things that you think are good about being YOU! I know it sounds impossible and it is a very challenging exercise, but is you can come up with at least 5 to start with...then you'll be on your way. And it doesn't have to be done all at once either...you can go away and do something else, then come back to it later on when you think of something else. You may struggle with this, but I'm sure you can find some good things that you like about yourself.

I'll see if I can think of anything else, and let you know...but the martial arts idea is worth looking in to IMO. Oh and yes, anyone can learn guitar...that doesn't make it any less of an achievement does it? Guitars are pretty complex actually'.

11-04-2009, 05:51 AM	#7 (permalink)
blossom Banned Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,897	Firstly, it's a pleasure. Secondly, I am not sure whether it would be your thing or not, as many people equate martial arts with being too violent. It has worked wonders for me though, and being partially introverted I can say that I understand about not feeling like I'm O.K. I guess reminding yourself that you are o.k is probably a good start, even if it doesn't feel that way. I do a particular MA called Shizen Ryu-or Natures Way, and it's based on the Taoist philosophy with meditation incorporated and heightened sense of energy and knowledge of the human anatomy and pressure points. I am reall natural at it, so for me, it's interesting. And it definately helps boost confidence, and you get fit...which was never that high on my priorites, but now that it is happening, it feels pretty good actually, which can affect your overall self-image and feelings oinside. Self-confidence can be a tricky one...and everyone will slide now and then, and have a low self-esteem week or not be totally feeling ok...and that's o.k...it's realistic because we are always changing, in our circumstances, in our reality and habits etc. You could try some form of creative pursuit that you haven't tried before, and work on it. Even if you suck aat it at first, eventually you'll get better at it, and it can really help with the way you feel about yourself, to be able to sit back and go "Wow, I did that...I created that! Try writing a list of 20 things that you think are good about being YOU! I know it sounds impossible and it is a very challenging exercise, but is you can come up with at least 5 to start with...then you'll be on your way. And it doesn't have to be done all at once either...you can go away and do something else, then come back to it later on when you think of something else. You may struggle with this, but I'm sure you can find some good things that you like about yourself. I'll see if I can think of anything else, and let you know...but the martial arts idea is worth looking in to IMO. Oh and yes, anyone can learn guitar...that doesn't make it any less of an achievement does it? Guitars are pretty complex actually'.