If you love food and travel, you may want to consider become a world renowned food critic
I've considered this myself as I seriously LOVE food...and it's so fun to eat. I actually find eating a fun activity.
As for the ideal woman in your head...are you sure that isn't just there based on all the messages you have recieved in society since birth saying that you HAVE to be more extroverted?
I remember from an earlier post of yours that you said you were introverted...all the things you just pointed out as being your perfect ideal of how you want to be...are you sure that isn't someone elses oppinion of how THEY want you to be?
Extroverted people are always wanting introverts to be more like them because, to them and because they are the majority on this planet, they can't see or understand why anyone who isn't loud, attention seeking and bubbly (i.e what they consider "öutgoing" to be!) wouldn't want to be that way...it's the norm...for THEM!
It sounds like you have experienced alot of people not accepting you the way you are and so you have internalized the message from that that there is something 'wrong'with you, when really, the fault lies with THEIR inability to value the qualities in you that make you different from them! Do you see what I mean here?
It might help you to start looking at the qualities that make you different...quietness, intellectually active, introspective, etc. and to start finding the positives in these qualities that others are failing to see. It will help you feel more esteem for yourself, and less need to reach for an unreachable personality...you're not extroverted, like them, you're introverted LIKE YOU! Start to work at accepting yourself more...I think this will help you alot. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, I just really think this might help...you don't HAVE to though, it's up to you entirely!