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Originally Posted by jacare  Part of the process is keying on these phrases, saying them to yourself, from yourself, and projecting them to others (mentally), these phrases replace the negative chatter going on in your mind:
* I love You
* I'm sorry
* Please forgive me
* Thank you
So you say and think the above phrases, and they replace "She's irresponsible", "Why did she do this", "I'm so mad at myself for letting it get to this point", "What did I do wrong?".... instead, you say and think:
* I love You
* I'm sorry
* Please forgive me
* Thank you |
That is an interesting exercise. Good thing it is suggested to do it silently because in the case of my wife if I actually said those things to her out loud I can say from experience it would take whatever argument I was having with her to the next level of acrimony, so it is more than a bit counter intuitive to apply that to our specific relationship but I will try if the opportunity arises.
I am interested in the article though I have gone though it once and I will give it another look soon.