[joelr]

Yeah LOA isn't about saying I want "THIS" person or this 1 particular job with this one company in this exact office facing the lake.
You're looking to create an experience, in this case it's to have a loving relationship. The detachment part is where you become ok with the fact that if it comes to you it MIGHT have to be a different person.
That doesn't mean it WILL be someone new. But if you insist on 1 particular person than the detachment isn't there.

You have to look at the opposite side. Imagine if you broke up with a woman and were 100% sure that you needed to move on but she told you she was using LOA to change you so you will be back with her anyday now.
It's silly, people have freewill.


If you start creating the energies that attract love into your life it could easily be your wife who follows that energy (subconsciously).

When your in a tramuatized state it's really hard to focus and meditate on those things. From my experience drugs that put you in a positive state help manifestation quite a bit.
In fact after I divorced I had to take time off from trying to manifest as I was too depressed. When I resumed it was only because I was self medicating and seeking professional help. But I did meet some incredible women.

(Warning: self medicating can lead to serious health and addiction problems)