facing fear is just that - feeling it and doing something anyway. more often than not, we realize things weren't as bad as we worried they would be.
judging yourself for a tendency of perfectionism probably doesn't help. the idea is not to find *yet another reason* to be hard on yourself. the idea is to acknowledge that tendency in a neutral way, accept the responsibility for having unrealistic standards of yourself, and take some small steps to be easier on yourself and not as critical.
one simple way to do this is to focus on positive things and things that are a source of gratitude. start as small and general as you want, the things you pick aren't as important as retraining yourself to think a different way. i won't say this is easy but it definitely gets easier with practice.
but this doesn't mean you should turn around and beat yourself up if or when you find yourself focusing on problems instead of the positive! you can notice it, and choose to shift the focus without criticizing yourself. i promise that gets easier, or it has for everyone i've come across who's decided to do this.
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