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Originally Posted by Alex Wu  The short answer is a definite yes. You're going to feel a lot of emotions, so be patient with yourself. First, there's no need to tell anyone in your life anything... only do that when you're ready and only when it serves your best interests.
Second, connect with some resources related to being gay... what do I mean? Read more about being gay on the internet. Read a gay fiction book or two. Depending on your age, you may be able to join a gay-related email list. Or come out to a friend who is likely to be supportive of you. At some point, go out to activities for gay and lesbians. There are gay potlucks and gay hiking events in the city where I live.
Take it slow, and give yourself lots of time to process everything you're feeling. Don't take any sudden actions. You didn't live all the years of your life in order to get to this point and throw yourself over a bridge, right?
Realizing I was gay was a very emotional period for me personally. That was 8 years ago. It took nearly 5 years for me to become comfortable being open about it (and I live in Canada), though I could have sped up the process by working on it consciously.
Being gay almost forces you to liberate yourself from the sort of conditioned thinking we're all brought up with. Now life isn't quite so straightforward... so go and explore and chart your own path. |
i'm just not ready to do that.. i have no friend i think i trust enough to come out to. also i am very embarassed about coming out.