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Originally Posted by Gracestars  I decided about a year or two back to choose happiness and feel I have come along way in being a happier, lighter and more emotionally self-sufficent human being. |
Try reminding yourself of this fact as much as possible, this one little 'setback'(in your opinion) shouldn't overshadow everything else you've done.
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Originally Posted by Gracestars The biggest problem is the shame and disappointment I feel in myself .
I guess my question is around going off course when on the road to personal development and how to deal with this. |
People are not machines, a slip up is expected along the way, it just shows you what you need to work on a bit more.
Going off course is also a chance to learn something new about yourself.
You say you feel shame and disappointment, do you feel the need to be perfect? To deal with every situation in a perfect manner?
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Originally Posted by Gracestars extreme overreaction
highly unstable person (ie: threats, intimidation etc etc)
Although I realise this person's response is completely out proportion, his reaction has thrown me, and I have taken on the abuse he has directed at me. |
Why? And how long do you think you're supposed to take this abuse?
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Originally Posted by Gracestars I guess I just really try to avoid drama but sometimes wonder how I manage to create it for myself. |
What you resist persists
Could it be you needed this 'drama' in order to work through what remaining issues you had? For example, these feelings of shame and disappointment? Why do you have such strong reactions? What can this situation teach you?
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Originally Posted by Jthorn "Look, I said I 'm sorry, OK?"
Make sure to give off the impression that if he doesn't reply "OK!", you 'll smash his face. |
I'm also leaning towards this solution