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Originally Posted by spirit4711  Adding to what already has been said:
An unmoderated forum is like the Wild West: everybody can take a shot at you and the law is far away most of the time. It's not a fair environment nor should you expect that.
So, being in the Wild West, what would you do different than in the 21st century?
You get value out of it or you wouldn't stay there. You say you want to stay there because of the online friends there. Maybe you could persuade them to come over to this forum?
But maybe you get other value out of the Wild West too? |
great analogy! (thought you were only going to hang in PM land mister?
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i should not expect fairness, true, but i have a lot of faith in humanity to do the right thing, to be just and all of that. but i'm a jaded idealist, not just an idealist, so i know this may not happen all the time.
actually, framing it as you did, i'm quite impressed there aren't more people taking advantage of the lawlessness. who joins a spiritual community that talks about using one's gifts to spread love if you want to stomp on people's hearts? (i actually think the person who does most of the stomping probably treats himself that way, which is sad). oh, and he wasn't always like that either, if it was like that from the beginning i could say he is just being a troll or whatever, but he seems fairly neutral towards people when they first come there (i guess that's a common trait for some types of abuse though).
i don't like rules in general, so yeah i guess i enjoy having no one forcing me to play nice and doing it anyway (most of the time anyhoo). that forum has a different flavor, it's more intimate. kinda like sunday school versus worship in the sanctuary (sorry to pick that particular reference but it's pretty late here). i mentioned this forum to my closest friend and she visited but didn't like how this place doesn't have a lot of eye candy (photos, etc.) and she does a lot to balance head and heart (as do i). but i did bring it up as an option.
like i said, that place has a close-knit feel that's harder to experience on a site this size, and the main focus is spirituality instead of PD (though we do a lot of that without labeling it).
i have good reasons to stay, so until the cons outweigh the pros i'm staying there. i realize leaving is an option but it's not one i'd want to use right now.
thanks for helping me look at it this way... now leave already!
@ssandra: yes that is a useful image. i have been very compassionate with him before, i once coached him through his fear of seeing a counselor at his mother's insistence. and eventually he has thrown the compassion back in my face, but that doesn't mean i can't still remind myself that he must be in amazing emotional and psychological pain to be so mean to others. he follows the golden rule too. thank you.