Don't have to tell me about scorpios, belie-e-ve me.
(It's ok, saggs have a reputation for saying the wrong thing at the wrong moment and wondering what all the shocked expressions are all about. )
Well I'll give you a bit more background. It was a personal growth site like this one except it was basically guy stuff, so it revolved around issues of masculinity, dating, what it means to be a man, all that stuff people get tired of hearing me talk about.
But these guys could be very judgmental and would sort of demand info on sexual pursuits and other things and call it "tough love" if they didn't think you were progressing how they thought you should. Well, one of these guys who previously was a friend, started becoming very critical of my life choices and I finally told him that what he was saying was making me feel worse about myself. I basically told him to leave me alone and he started stalking me and saying all sorts of threatening things and making accusations about me that were untrue.
He managed to get a little group together from our "sister site", and they posted some of my photos from the member's area and began threads making fun of my physical appearance and started picking me apart, saying a bunch of lies about me. It was actually pretty traumatic for me, mainly because photographs were involved, I'd never had an experience like that before. And I kept getting PMs from friends who had heard some rumor that someone else was going to start a thread on me at the request of this guy, it happened, it just SUCKED. To put it simply. Left me with a really sick feeling in my stomach.
But, eventually the guy got banned, and then he threatened the owner of the site that he had personal info on another poster and would destroy their lives if the site wasn't shut down for good.
Anyway, I guess the POSITIVE moral of the story is I was not liking that place, I didn't like the attitudes that I was "expected" to have and I REALLY didn't like the way I was feeling about not fitting into the mold these guys demanded I fit into. I was judging myself so harshly. So, through whatever divine intervention, all that crap came to the surface and now it's behind me. I have a few people there that I contact through PM because they are true friends, but I am no longer an active poster at that site and life is much better. So in the long run, I was sort of forced into leaving behind beliefs and expectations that were harmful.
That is WAAAAAYYYYYYY more info than you needed but it helped me clarify that situation to myself, a little better. Sounds like the same things happen more or less when you get harassed.