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Originally Posted by cylon  Whatever it was you sure don't want to explain it too much. 
Allowing yourself to make mistakes is hard. I have a tendency to beat myself up for things that don't even involve other people, so you can imagine how horrible I feel if I think it's harmed someone else.
Like you said to me it's a good sign that you are not whatever negative messages are being shouted at you. If you were, you'd just roll your eyes, and give the the old "whatever".
If someone is in your face and can't accept or forgive you for something, they might have something else going on, depends on it's a family member or friend or romantic partner, but I think the bottom line is someone feels they have the right to control you, and they feel that you are obligated to sit there and be criticized, long after whatever you did has passed.
Answer to this could be stronger personal boundaries and just saying that you won't be talked to that way. Of course, when you do that, they're gonna test you to see if you really mean it.
That's the best I can figure from what you've said. |
Cool, yeah that works. To be honest I'm not willing to share the event in question because it really is THAT ridiculous. I have a tendency to take other people's stuff on too much, so perhaps that is what is happening here. It just sucks that those who tend to sneak, hide and run are the ones who get away with murder, and yet honesty and taking responsibility is what can shove you in the limelight and ultimately work against you.
I guess I just really try to avoid drama but sometimes wonder how I manage to create it for myself. And that makes me angry at myself for undoing all my hard work.