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Originally Posted by Gracestars  It sounds as though you are still ambivelant about the friendship, that you haven't entirely let it go yet yourself. And to be really honest it sounds like are more worried about YOU being perceived as the bad guy in this situation, about the light in which YOU might be seen by others, than any real concern for this person's feelings or regarding the friendship itself. I don't think it is right to continue contact for this reason alone. As they say, act out of love not fear.
I have been in both your position and on the receiving end of it, and I urge you to keep in mind that it can be incredibly painful to be 'dumped' by a friend. If you feel this is absolutely the best course of action and that there is no way of communicating and resolving the issue between you, then I would suggest acting with integrity and honesty and finally laying it to rest once and for all. |
Thanks for that input. I am 32, I've known this guy since I was 17 years old so naturally there's going to be some ambivalence there. But I honestly regret having been a part of the friendship in the first place, and wish I had been stronger years ago and done my own thing and ended it then. But I was afraid of being lonely so I allowed myself to get swept up in this negative, depressing world of his and it is my fault really I am in this situation, he is who he is, I just could have been stronger.