[impaul99]

With all the negative comments and drama in the other thread, I wanted to create a separate thread to discuss something else related to Steve's separation/divorce - if he'd be willing to go into it.

I'm curious if you experience any of the perceived "benefits" of separating / divorce that some of us married men fantasize about from time to time - and I'm not referring to anything sexual here.

For example I'm interested to know if you find yourself having more time or at least more time/schedule freedom being "single" now. Meaning, most guys I know who are married and/or have kids have to schedule their business around their marriage/kids schedules. For example, they can't just work on a project all day and all night long (with sleep and food breaks) when they're inspired to do so. Usually there are certain "norms" you agree to when married such as dinner time being at a certain time, spending time together during evenings etc.

With kids there's getting them ready to go to school or daycare, picking them up, dinner etc. As a single guy, not married, no kids, you have no such responsibilities and you could technically work on stuff or travel without really too much worry about stuff like that.

I'm curious if you find yourself having more free time for "doing stuff" now, or has the void just been filled with something else?

Another thing I'm curious about is single energy for manifesting. Do you find it easier to manifest stuff now that you're single? For example, lets say that before you wanted to manifest an opportunity to meet someone (Let's say Deepak Chopra for example) and you saw that he was going to be in New York so you wanted to manifest a trip to New York.

However, unconsciously Erin may have had counter-intentions maybe not wanting you to travel to New York right now for whatever reason. Now that you're "single" do you find it easier to manifest things?

I ask because I have often found that whenever I try to manifest something that involves other people, sometimes I'm "clear" on the intention and I want it to manifest but unconsciously the other person may be "blocking" it. So I'm curious if you find it easier now that Erin is not really part of your daily life.

This is nothing against Erin, or anything like that, I'm just mainly talking about the fact that no matter what - each human being has their own ideas, dreams and visions and when you're married the things you tend to manifest are kind of a shared/compromise version of both people's visions. If for example you wanted a house with a 3 car garage, and Erin wanted one with a small 1 car garage, previously maybe you manifested a house with a 2 car garage.

Do you now find yourself manifesting things faster, quicker, easier?

(I realize it hasn't been that long, I'm mainly asking for the future)

According to Dr. DeMartini, everything is always in balance. His theory states that technically things will be no easier and no harder than before. Any challenges or support that Erin and/or the kids may have brought to Steve's life will still be there in the exact same quantity, just in different form.

For example, for every hour Steve may have "extra" now which was previously spent doing stuff with Erin or the kids, may now be taken up by extra house-work type stuff (groceries, preparing meals etc.) that may have been done by Erin before - not to be stereotypical, I'm just giving an example as I have no idea what arrangement Steve/Erin had before for stuff like this.

I'm curious to hear from you Steve what your experiences are now that you're doing stuff by yourself. Especially in these areas:

- Do you find yourself having more time/energy to put towards your projects?
- Do you find it easier to manage your finances?
- Is it easier to do more "exotic" trials, such as eating raw or polyphasic sleep or whatever, now that you don't have to worry about other people being affected by your trials as much?
- Do you find yourself reaching out to friends, family and other "relationships" more as a way to connect with people, in response to not having Erin there at home with you?
- Do you find it easier to keep your house clean / organized without the kids there?

Just stuff like that. I'm curious what differences you experience.