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The Big D · 11-02-2009, 09:31 PM

I always find it kind of unfortunate when I encounter a relationship so perfectly described by ladder theory, but when it's right it's right.

Here's what's going on: your BF is probably already having sex with at least one more attractive woman. If not, he certainly feels he could do so if need be. He keeps you around because he's not opposed to you per se (quite likely because you have sex with him, although you haven't stated that you do), but he treats you like **** because keeping you isn't a high priority for him, whereas he knows it's a very high priority for you.

Ultimately you'll have to decide if whatever other merits he has (and they may well be substantial, or you wouldn't put up with this) are worth the negative consequences of not being his preferred sexual partner.

11-02-2009, 09:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
The Big D Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 215	I always find it kind of unfortunate when I encounter a relationship so perfectly described by ladder theory, but when it's right it's right. Here's what's going on: your BF is probably already having sex with at least one more attractive woman. If not, he certainly feels he could do so if need be. He keeps you around because he's not opposed to you per se (quite likely because you have sex with him, although you haven't stated that you do), but he treats you like **** because keeping you isn't a high priority for him, whereas he knows it's a very high priority for you. Ultimately you'll have to decide if whatever other merits he has (and they may well be substantial, or you wouldn't put up with this) are worth the negative consequences of not being his preferred sexual partner.