In order to feel negative emotions from a situation that occurs (like a divorce), you have to assign the situation a meaning that disempowers you. That's a choice, albeit one that most people make unconsciously.
To me it doesn't make any sense to assign this separation a disempowering meaning, so I assign it an empowering meaning instead of using my power against myself. Consequently, I feel good about it.
If I wanted to feel bad about it, I'd assign a meaning like divorce is failure, kids' lives will be ruined, or similar lame and destructive beliefs.
Since I regard feeling bad about reality as a foolish endeavor, I don't apply those meanings. To me this is a period of positive transformation, accelerated growth, new opportunities, and experiential freedom. I can see that my life, Erin's life, and the kids lives will improve massively as a result of this change. It is a major life upgrade. It's something to be celebrated.
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