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reuniter · 11-02-2009, 03:27 AM

I am trying to get myself together and get my relationship with my wife back right now which is what brought me to this forum.

My circumstances are different so the comparison between my own marriage and that Mr. Pavlina cannot be easily made but I too have a little so son and my wife's decision to just up and disappear with him is not just excruciating to me but very hard on my son as well especially since I was as directly involved in the day to day business of raising him as she was, and he kept telling me over and over that he did not want to be separated from me, even though AFAIK nobody had told him that was a possibility.

Anyway Mr. Pavlina's commitment to personal growth is admirable, but IMO our commitment to our children's personal growth should trump everything else.

All 3 of my elder brothers had divorces and in every case it was empirically the wrong thing for their children, and as far as I can tell with the benefit of hindsight probably the wrong thing for the adults as well, and the ones I have discussed it with agree.

I think divorce is rarely the right option.

11-02-2009, 03:27 AM	#377 (permalink)
reuniter Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 18	Not sure what to think I am trying to get myself together and get my relationship with my wife back right now which is what brought me to this forum. My circumstances are different so the comparison between my own marriage and that Mr. Pavlina cannot be easily made but I too have a little so son and my wife's decision to just up and disappear with him is not just excruciating to me but very hard on my son as well especially since I was as directly involved in the day to day business of raising him as she was, and he kept telling me over and over that he did not want to be separated from me, even though AFAIK nobody had told him that was a possibility. Anyway Mr. Pavlina's commitment to personal growth is admirable, but IMO our commitment to our children's personal growth should trump everything else. All 3 of my elder brothers had divorces and in every case it was empirically the wrong thing for their children, and as far as I can tell with the benefit of hindsight probably the wrong thing for the adults as well, and the ones I have discussed it with agree. I think divorce is rarely the right option.