Absolute best thing you can do when someone is yelling at you, and saying "you never do this" or "you always do that", is to take deep breaths, stay as centered as possible. Don't talk back, just let them say their piece. When they are done, CALMLY and without emotion say something "I understand that you feel this way, but I disagree with your opinion of that. I have done a,b,c many times so it is not true that I always/never do that. I do not want to stand here and argue though, so I'm going to leave now."
No emotion, no trying to get them back, just let them calm down, acknowledge what they say in a non-judgmental manner, and then get the hell out of there.
Easier said than done, but it's the only way to stop this cycle. Takes a lot of maturity to pull off.
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