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Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno  A MAN self-describes as "I'm a "Nice Guy" overwhelmingly when he is ACTUALLY a self-serving prick. (Ladies, am I right on this one? Have you discovered that NO MAN who described himself as a Nice Guy was ACTUALLY nice?) |
this is definitely true Johnny! the last guy i considered for a potential relationship turned out to be a 'nice guy' who put me on a pedestal, came across as needy, and was actually even super polite when i said i don't think this will work. he asked why, so i answered honestly and told him it seemed like he put me on a pedestal and like he could have a wonderful day or a wretched day depending on whether i gave him attention. i want an equal, not a lapdog.
a word (or few) about the example of gender specific language use...
i'd also say, sometimes people of both genders will use the word "nice" or the word "interesting" as a polite way of saying a person or situation is not their cup of tea.
example: (a woman or a man, to a friend of the same gender) "how was your date with x?"
"it was ... interesting."
now, if the person who answers doesn't care about being polite or considerate (and some people of both genders like to be polite and considerate), that person may answer with something like "it was a train wreck! i had absolutely nothing in common with him/her and don't know why i agreed to the date!" so i think this is something both genders have in common, depending on how much the person makes an effort to be respectful and courteous.