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striving4peace · 11-01-2009, 04:35 PM

This post is about trying to help me understand the female gender (i'm male).
Is it just me or do women normally never happy enough with what the men in their life are doing for them?
My mom, my sister, my ex-best friend, and now my wife all usually just complain that I don't do enough. As someone who believes he is always trying his best at everything - most of all ensuring people he loves are happy and problem free - it's quite frustrating and angering. Most of the time everyone's happy, but when they get frustrated- off they go.
Common phrases always start with "You NEVER...." or "You ALWAYS..."

I can take it to an extent but if it goes on and on, and in extreme circumstances I turn into the hulk, lose my temper and yell back - resulting in tears, a difficult road back to recovery, and possible loss of a bit more of trust / comfort zone.

Its not that I don't explain myself, but at times it's really amazing the stupid things that need to be explained. I mean isn't it common sense to not tell the person who is fighting for you, going the extra distance to do the best he can that "He never even tries"?

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striving4peace Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 204	Its never enough This post is about trying to help me understand the female gender (i'm male). Is it just me or do women normally never happy enough with what the men in their life are doing for them? My mom, my sister, my ex-best friend, and now my wife all usually just complain that I don't do enough. As someone who believes he is always trying his best at everything - most of all ensuring people he loves are happy and problem free - it's quite frustrating and angering. Most of the time everyone's happy, but when they get frustrated- off they go. Common phrases always start with "You NEVER...." or "You ALWAYS..." I can take it to an extent but if it goes on and on, and in extreme circumstances I turn into the hulk, lose my temper and yell back - resulting in tears, a difficult road back to recovery, and possible loss of a bit more of trust / comfort zone. Its not that I don't explain myself, but at times it's really amazing the stupid things that need to be explained. I mean isn't it common sense to not tell the person who is fighting for you, going the extra distance to do the best he can that "He never even tries"?